Monthly Archives: February 2013

Travel and Kidlets: A Primer for Success

I know that I promised a series of entries on my Shot@Life experience, but I find myself on a borrowed laptop with no access to my files and photos. So…. to be revisited.

In the meantime, I offer you Other Stuff.

Last night the boys and I flew into Baltimore (my home town, WootWoot!) for a visit with the ‘rents/g’rents. Secretly (and yet another future post entry) I am here for a meeting at National Geographic HQ in Washington, D.C. next week, but I came out a few days early to visit with my folks and bum around with the boys.

I was kind of figuring I’d have a fantastically hilarious post for you today, since traveling with children sort of lends itself to this sort of thing, right? Well, not so! Yesterday went without the Keystone Cops routine. No meltdowns, no arguments over who gets the window seat (inevitably NOT ME), no lost little persons, no…well…anything, really. Everything went supremely well the whole day.

I suppose that is something to brag about in and of itself, yes?

Here’s my secret: MY BOYS ARE AWESOME.

The boys play at the MSP airport kids area.

That’s the main thing. Well, that and packing a bunch of snacks in their backpacks. But I did some preplanning that certainly helped everyone have a successful day. This stuff I can share with you.

1. Make sure you set your expectations of your children appropriately. Oh man, is this ever the key to success with travelkidlets. I know all of us mamas always want to have these fantastically-behaved, perfectly groomed little angels when we take them places. It’s a nice feeling to get complements from complete strangers, right? That’s great and all, but kids tend to get increasingly stressed if they have to worry about every little thing while you drag them around the country. So here is my mathematical formula for how I determine what level of expectation to exact from Thing1 and Thing2 while running from Gate A1 to Gate F472:

Worst Child You’ve Ever Seen In Your Life – Your Kid’s Age    =    Travel Capacity
Length of Travel Day

Okay, okay. My real expectation is that my kids aren’t the worst behaving children in the immediate area. Hah! That’s it. Really. I don’t want to be THAT MOM who doesn’t pay any attention to her kid’s behavior and allows them to kick the seat in front of them the entire flight or scream like their hair is on fire (unless it actually is), but I also don’t want to scold them into compliance the whole day, either. I want everyone to have a great day, including me, so a little crazy is acceptable as far as I’m concerned.

2. Give your kidlets specific tasks throughout the day. My oldest son is “in charge” of my youngest son. My youngest son is “in charge” of his monkey backpack. Both boys are in charge of spotting family bathrooms and trash cans for our gum wrappers once we get off the plane. We make it a challenge to see who can spot out gate first (C5 is in a different hallway than C8 at Minneapolis airport, FYI, so make sure you read your boarding pass carefully…ahem…not that I would make this mistake….). I give my boys one main thing to remember throughout the day. Yesterday it was “Brothers hold hands!”, which I said whenever it was super important not to lose anyone. They immediately grabbed each others hands. By the way, it is SO much easier to get through Security (since I have to strip myself of nearly everything, apparently) if the boys are occupied with each other and I don’t have to hold on to both of them while I hop one-footed out of my shoes.

3. Always tell your kids what is coming up. What do they need to do at Security? Where is our luggage going? Why can’t we run around right now? Where are we walking? I know that us ‘rents can’t predict everything, but we know enough to put our kids at ease. A big metropolitan airport is filled with fast-moving people, electric carts, bright lights, stores, art, high-pitched beeping, etc. Total Overload for kidlets, espeically if they’ve never been to a busy airport before. Before Security, tell them what they need to do and where they need to stand. Before you send your luggage off, tell them that there are people on the other side of the wall that will make sure your bag gets to your plane. Before they blast through a row of sleepy, coffee-drinking, laptop wielding business people, guide them over to a place with fewer people (if you can), or to the window so they can have a look at the planes. Yadda yadda yadda. Take the time to answer their questions. This is 9/10ths of calming their fears.

4. Realize that you aren’t always going to get what you want. Yeah, it would be nice if I didn’t get stuck in the stupid middle seat, but I know my boys will pick at each other the entire flight if I don’t sit between them. It would be fantastic if I got my Mocha Soy Decaf No Whip as we run past the Starbucks on our way to our next plane, but maybe my kids just can’t really stand in another line at that moment. And yes, I would LOVE to use a private bathroom stall and pee all by myself without commentary, but that just doesn’t happen with a 3 and 7 year old. That’s just the way it goes, folks. Suck it up.

Remember the bottom line: arrive at your final destination in tact. You are the adult, so it really falls on you to help your kids be successful. Travel can be stressful for everyone involved. Just remember that you are not a bad parent if your kid loses it and starts crying. Or if you lose it and start crying. Or if people sitting across from you give you that look. (You’ll never see them again.) You are in charge! You are the cool parent that gives your kids these fantastic opportunities to grow and learn! You are the person your kids love the most on this whole entire planet!

Boys at SFD airport

And don’t forget, there’s always Dramamine and Xanex. (FOR YOU. Not for the kids.) 🙂

Emily, Doer of Stuff

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Shot@Life Stuff: Part 1

(This post is the first in a series about my experiences with Shot@Life, a program of the United Nations Foundation.)

The whole premise of this blog is that I “do Stuff”, right? So let me tell you about something that I did earlier this month.

I was recently invited to attend the 2013 Shot@Life Champion Summit in Washington, D.C. I attended as a representative of the General Federation of Women’s Clubs, a partner of Shot@Life, and, while I knew that Shot@Life’s motto was that “every child deserves a shot at a healthy life, no matter where they live”, I did not know how much I would end up falling in love with this program while sitting in a hotel conference room for three days.

First of all, let me introduce you to the facts.
The Good:
Measles mortality has decreased 71% globally. Polio is on the brink of eradication. Vaccines that protect children from pneumonia and diarrhea are currently being distributed around the world saving 2.5 million children each year. Awesome!!
The Bad:
One in five children still lack access to vaccines – life saving vaccines. One child dies every 20 seconds from a vaccine-preventable disease.

There is no Ugly, by the way. So let’s get back to the good: There are ways that you and I can help! (YOU are why there is no Ugly.)

Celebrate Childhood!!
How awesome is this? One of my favorite things that Shot@Life does at their events is allow people to hold up a board that says, “I want to give a child a shot at:______”, and the person can fill in whatever they want. Favorites that I have seen: a first kiss, learning to ride a bicycle, a first date, being a messy eater, and world domination. Bring awareness to this issue by helping people really identify with children in other countries that might otherwise be unfamiliar to your audience. Is a child in India any different than a child in America? Absolutely not! All children want to be happy and to enjoy all the “firsts” that come with being a child. All children deserve a Shot@Life.

Other ways to blurt about how awesome childhood is? Write an entry on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, and so on, detailing why childhood is so important to you, then reference Shot@Life. Challenge your friends to “pass it on” to their page. Create some positive vibes out there in the blogosphere.

Invest in Childhood!!
Here’s an awesome fact: $20 will help immunize a child from pneumonia, diarrhea, measles, AND polio! $20!! To be honest, I blow this kind of money on Starbucks each month. And snack food. And junk for my kids. And all kinds of things that I don’t need. (MAMA THOUGHT – If I don’t buy my kids so much stuff, I don’t have to clean up so much stuff. Hmm.) But check this out – it costs $100 to treat a child who falls ill from vaccine-preventable diseases. Which is cheaper – vaccination or treatment? Your $20 goes a long way to effectively cut future costs. Vaccinations are less expensive!

There are a number of ways in which each of us can put aside more of our own personal money to donate to good causes, such as Shot@Life, but I’d like to think Outside of the Box. “Hold A Fundraiser” sounds like…yawn…..blah blah blah….. So don’t. Hold a dessert party and invite all of your friends to try your best desserts for a $1 a scoop. Invite people to do something COOL and FUN, not YAWN and BORING. Make it personal, too. Do something you love. Love to cook? Feed people for a donation per plate. Love to sew? Scrapbook? Bedazzle? Teach people how to craft in awesome ways for $5. Love to read books? Have people sponsor you for a penny a page. And I’m telling you, surely there is a way to use the theme of “A Shot” in combo with your favorite…um…drink, right? Like I said, make it FUN.

Stand up for Childhood!!
Sign Shot@Life’s petition at http://www.Shot@Life.org/advocate. Write a letter to your local media people – newspaper, tv, community blog sites, retirement center newsletters, and so on. Spread the word! And then keep spreading further by contacting your Congresspeople and urge them to support US funding for global immunization programs. You can go really crazy and speak up at local schools, businesses, community groups, events, WHATEVER. Knock yourself out.

Still not sold? How about this cold-hard fact. Disease is only a plane ride away, folks. The people on this planet are no longer so seperate anymore. One sick person hops a flight to wherever – your home town? and that’s all it takes for disease to spread. It is in EVERYONE’S best interest to vaccinate and eradicate diseases. EVERYONE benfits.

“Disease eradication is the ultimate in sustainability. Once it’s gone, it’s gone forever. Once it’s gone, it’s gone for everyone.” – Dr. Thomas R. Frieden, MD, MPH, Director, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Administrator, Agency for Toxic Substances and Disease Registry

The Point of All This STUFF

I used to write a blog over on Xanga (anyone remember Xanga?). I started it some time before I had kids, and stopped writing it once I realized it had turned into a MamaBlog. Nothing wrong with MamaBlogs, don’t get me wrong. I have some amazing MamaFriends who write some really worthwhile stuff out there in the Blogosphere. But this wasn’t my intention. So I stopped.

I was recently at a conference (next post) where I met quite a few woman bloggers, some Mamas, some not; they all encouraged and inspired me to start blogging again. I think that, with a little focus, I would like to do this. But I don’t want to purely be a MamaBlog. I want to blog to be about me – all of me.

I like to do Stuff. I believe that life is all about Living. I like to try things out, explore, give things a shot. This blog is going to be about me doing all kinds of different things with myself – some easy, some more challenging. And I will certainly take suggestions for my next adventure.

I will be breaking these blog posts down by tags (until I learn some other way that’s better – I’ve looked all over the WordPress site and don’t know what many of the options are) like: Travel, Cookings, Advocacy, and so on. You will get to read about me trying new things here, and sometimes I’ll drag my family along with me.

Hope you enjoy!

Emily
Doer of Stuff